Metafilter is my favorite online community and I've been reading it for years.  There is a section of the community dedicated to finding answers from other users, ranging from the practical (a good bar in midtown) to the more emotional, like this question:  How did your abortion affect your relationship?

Here's the link.

The poster is having an abortion, a decision she made with the love and support of her partner.  The answers so far have been thoughtful, non-judgmental and truly supportive:

Do not listen for a nanosecond about the stories you may hear, here and elsewhere, about all the relationships that failed because of an abortion. You don't know these people, and you don't know exactly why these relationships failed. You do, however, know yourself and your partner, and to an extent (though perhaps not fully, yet) you know your own strength. Your commitment and compassion for each other is an enormously good thing, and with that I think you already have the wherewithal to endure this.

Like most of the people who've already answered, I think the key is being thoughtful in your decision (which it seems you have been) and being careful and cognizant of how you and your partner feel about the termination, before and after. In a way, it's like any other crisis you will go through together; if you have a strong relationship, there's no particular reason you won't be able to weather it, but it's not necessarily going to be easy. Like Ironmouth says, you are a pair of human beings with the capacity to recover from nearly everything; I would add, you have the capacity to make the right decision for yourselves, and it seems you have. Good luck and take care of each other.

This thread gives me hope.

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