I dunno', it seems like for six seasons they hammered at the idea that Big was "the one", meeting and ending the series with the same exchange of lines "Do you believe in love at first sight?" "Abso-fucking lutely!", going through seemingly endless guys and always coming back to Big.

The fact that she was obsessed with her wedding isn't at all out of tune with her established character. CB is a synthesis of the traditional and non-traditional woman. For one look at her relationship history, she has never been single for more then a minute, showing pathological co-dependence traits, even jumping into relationships with guys w/o knowing they were "ADD guys", etc. The only really "modern" concession to liberation is her lack of remorse about her sexuality.

Then you have her self sabotage in regards to Big when it comes to Aidan; Aidan being the kind of guy who I as a heterosexual man would be gay for in a eye-blink. He's masculine w/o being a douchebag and without sacrificing his enormous ability to be empathetic and kind, plus he can build shit out of wood. Good bye IKEA! Still Carrie screws him over because of Big.

I would suggest that Carrie has been married to Big in her mind since she first met him at Tavern On The Green in Season 1 Episode 1, and to her she was cheating on him with everyone (possibly why she picked so mane losers or flawed men, and the one decent guy she picks she destroyed).

The only problem I have with CB getting married is that neither her of Big seem to really have the emotional maturity to do something like that.

Now, I'll tell you the problem I have with the plot of the movie:

STEVE IS NOT A CHEATER!!!

Steve is my #2 fave "non-lead" guy ever to be on that show! (ok, you can't count hot black doctor because he was only on for two episodes). Steve would not cheat on Miranda just because he hadn't gotten any tail in six months! Go-damn that makes me so mad.

They might as well have made Harry a pedo! (harry being my all-time fave SATC guy, actually more that Aiden).

ARGGGHHHH! Those blockheads!

"Steve would not cheat on Miranda just because he hadn't gotten any tail in six months! Go-damn that makes me so mad." ??

.. I am pretty sure that's the exact reason he did it, from the mouth of Steve Brady himself. Don't get me wrong, I like him too but how the hell is he not a cheater?.. when he cheatED?

And Carrie was definitely single for "more than a minute". I don't really know what SATC you're watching but she was very single for a huge portion of the series.

saballerina: I'm saying that choosing to write that in was way out of character for the lovable and faithful guy who had been established over the course of the TV series. I'm not saying it didn't happen, it just wasn't natural to the development of his fictional identity.

Maybe your definition of "single" isn't the same as mine. From my perspective she went from one monogamous relationship to another with nearly no break between. To me "single" means not being romantically involved with anyone for an extended period of time, I disagree that this was ever the case with Carrie. Single does not mean going a week without a date or a shag. She was a serial monogamist for pretty much the entire series.

I'm "single". I have not been on any kind of date with the intent to get into a relationship in years; and I was completely abstinent for over a year after getting out of a relationship before jumping in the sack for friendly non-romantic nookie. Long enough to get to know myself and what I do and don't want. Carrie never did this, she would go a month w/o a lover or a date and write about it like it was a profound experience. Hell, a month after the end of a relationship and I still would be finding underwear and socks in my apartment.

Don't limit this lack of true-singleness to Carrie. When not in relationships, none of the four go for longer than a week or two without a date or sexual encounter with some interesting fellow they meet at an art gallery, hot new club, coffee shop or gym. Not that there's anything wrong with that, Geez, I wish my life had been like that when I was living in New York in my 20s. Now, THAT was true singleness.

Alexandra:

No argument there, but of the four Miranda is probably the least dependent on external validation through romance or sex (of course this could have a lot to do with the writers being uncomfortable with writing sexual scenes for a pregnant woman) and Charlotte is probably the one most comfortable and aware of what she wants but often going about it the wrong way or confusing the trappings of a good love life with the essence of a good love life (until Harry shows her what some good kosher lovin' is all about, which is what us hairy Jews are secretly known for; than and bare-ass white-couch situations).

I watched the series and saw the movie. What I did not like is Carrie went ahead and married Big after he ditched her at the wedding. To me, the message was to settle for anyone, rather than being single. I know if I was abandoned like that at my wedding, there would be no going back.

Steve was a pig, and Miranda took him back. Sorry, once that happens, its a done deal. If Miranda had been the cheater, it would of been a witch hunt.

Regarding Samantha,it was obvious she would eventually break up with Smith. Charlotte always knew she wanted to get married and have kids. Harry was the only good guy portrayed. Barely saw Stanford.

The materialism was more prominent in the movie, as far as labels. Come on, why would anyone finance a purse??? That is ridiculous. Maybe some do that in NYC, but if I recall, NYC is expensive to begin with.

Overall, the movie was entertaining, but the series was better.

dondoca:

"If Miranda had been the cheater, it would of been a witch hunt. "

I don't know if that's entirely fair or accurate, Carrie cheated on Aidan with Big and while I personally never forgave her for it I know a lot of people who thought Aidan should have taken her back. Some people were even mad about how he walked out on her stating he couldn't deal with it. I know it's not the same thing, but Aidan was a damned saint on that show and while Miranda wasn't deserving of being cheated on, if people could forgive someone screwing over Aidan then I feel certain people could forgive Steve screwing over Miranda.

We don't ever really see Miranda's treatment of Steve for the four years between the series and the movie but she has a long history of being emotionally distant and even borderline abusive towards men who are in love with her (both Skipper and Steve, and her somewhat exploitative pursuit of interracial love with Dr. Bob aka Sexy Black Doctor). If she had gone back to that kind of behavior for an extended period of time it would certainly explain Steve's actions.

In a lot of ways Miranda is both my favorite feminist woman character and someone who has a lot of negative stereotypes of feminist women. On the one hand she is her own person, she has her own goals and she does it for her self.

But this also leads her to behave in a very selfish manner with everyone except Carrie (she's often shitty and disrespectful of both Sam and Charlotte, even Carrie at times) both male and female. I thought hijacking a lesbian to pretend to be in a relationship for the sake of her career was very insensitive, and her use of Skipper as a sex object when she clearly had no respect for him.

I think back on it and I honestly believe that Samantha showed more respect for men she had casual sex with than Miranda often did for men she was in more serious relationships with.

Oh, and her refusal to kiss the donut/big boned guy and then denigrating him to her friends. She was living out every stereotype of a guy who has sex with a woman and then mocks her behind her back to his friends combined with pussy-shame.