PMS "Buddy"
Has anyone heard of this new site, PMSbuddy.com? Its a new site where guys can sign up and be alerted when their girlfriends have their period. At first, I thought this was a joke, but after some investigation it turns out that this site is completely legitimate and thousands have signed up to be "warned" when it comes around that time of the month.
This lovely new site's logo is "saving relationships, one month at a time".
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Granted, I don't have a boyfriend, but I think I've come up with a much easier way to let my friends know that I'm on my period. (If and when I want them to know.) You know, that speak-hole in your face. It's for talking. And communicating. Someone might want to let the women on the site know. I'd also throw in there that having a functioning female reproductive system is nothing to be ashamed of, and that there is no vengeful Period God telling women that they are required feel like crap every month.
Well... gee... I'm detecting some "dude" vibes here, but I can think of some times when my father has figured out after the fact that my mom has been PMSing and probably could have used a heads up.
Eh, I'd like to get worked up about this, but you know, in reality whenever I've known guys who went out of their way to know when their girlfriends were having their periods, they used that week to be really sweet, extra nice, bring her ice cream and flowers, etc, and be as sympathetic as possible to her plight. One guy I know carries painkillers in his pocket for it. Plus they knew not to ask for sex.
As far as I can tell, you can't just put anyone in and they'll like, stalk them or something. You put in the person's last known period and they calculate accordingly (probably not super accurate, either). So it's not really an invasion of privacy, men (and other women) do that all the time anyway. It's just like a fancier version of a calculator.
I wouldn't appreciate my boyfriend acting like I'm ill and/or temporarily insane. And frankly, I'd be a little offended if my boyfriend wouldn't have sex with me while I'm on my period. Or do you mean that women on their periods don't want sex?
I'd also hope that one's boyfriend is nice and sweet all month long.
Well, "Ill and/or temporarily insane" is a wrong way to look at it. It should be seen more as not making loud noises around someone with a migraine or avoiding multitasking with sad stories while The Land Before Time is playing (don't do it).
Also, the "no sex" bit I think referred to just not being in the mood. For example, my breasts may be bigger, but they're swollen and aching and I don't want anyone playing with them right now.
Boyfriends can be nice and sweet all month long and still acknowledge that their girlfriend is in pain, so put in extra effort that they can't put in all the time. I mean, they're your boyfriend, they're not a god.
And I know I can't have sex when I'm on my period. Because I have a tampon in and don't want to mess up the sheets. My boyfriend knows this. So when I say I am on my period, he doesn't mention sex, and we stick to the kinds of intimacy that don't require penetration. If your relationship is different, then your boyfriend won't need to know this except to make sure you have everything you need and make you foods you like, because you're cramping. And if you have really light, easy periods, then your boyfriend doesn't need this anyway. But that doesn't mean that all women have light periods or don't suffer during their periods, or that all women are willing to cover the bed in menstrual blood for sex.
I agree with Abbey, and a supplement; this is just fostering another group of future divorcees/exes who don't realize that communicating is a good idea in a relationship.
This also enforces the tired stereotype of women being completely "unmanageable" during their menstrual cycle.
I believe they posted this on the main page a few weeks ago. Just as a heads up.
Great! Next time I have a boyfriend who can't count to 28(days) or doesn't know how to ask me a simple question or notice wrapped items in the trash-
One that likes to dismiss my experience as a "that time of the month" symptom, who is unaware of how very emotional men actually are and how little they control them (in general, going by violent crime rates)
I'll be sure to refer him to this link to for stupid men who date women.
LOL @ the stupid men who date women... I think that happens a little too often.
If you have a girlfriend who PMS's that much, you don't really need a reminder.
So I start a conversation with my BF about the site and he thinks I want him to sign up for it. I respond
"You're asking if I want you to sign up for a site that flat out assumes that you're with a woman so ignorant of her own body that she can't tell you if she's feeling poorly from a monthly even. That assumes that all women turn into crazy woman-zillas for a week because of uncontroled PMS rage. That assumes all women are on a 28 day cycle! "
I explored the site. There's a story section at ( http://pmsbuddy.com/story ) where people tell their stories, women say "it's a period, stupid!" and men respond that they are fat-cow-lesbian-sluts.
But did we honestly expect better from their target audience?
So, I was looking at the stories section... anybody else catch the rant against the site someone put up and the *sarcastically* lovely response that someone responded with? Obviously answering someone's anger at something with insults and telling them they should go kill themselves is the best way to deal with something. The woman's comment is titled "You can't be serious!" by Lacey Wagner, the guy's is "Lacey Wagner is a slut" by A Guy if anyone is interested in getting angry.