I don't have much time to write this, so forgive me if it appears hasty.
I just recently joined facebook, and one of my "friends" posted a link to her new "awesome, funny, edgy" blog. It's one of those write-a-funny-yet-insensitive-caption to a photo type things. I almost threw up.
In one photo, I think there is an implication of a woman who had been raped (but in a funny way, of course). The picture that REALLY made me disgusted was one that showed a sad 5-7 year old looking sad, with the caption reading something terribly disgusting about her getting molested by her uncle (again, this is meant to be funny.)
I don't care thet the people laughing along with this are supposedely my friends, I had to speak up.
If you want to see what I'm talking about, go here.
And if you are able to leave a comment on the actual note that appears on Facebook, Go Here.
Part of me regrets making this shit "famous" but I think more people need to speak up against this sort of NOT FUNNY bullshit.


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The thing is, even if you can look past the disgusting offensive part of this, nothing is edgy or funny or awesome. It's all been done before and she's not even doing it well. It's recycled and tired and not clever.
I was expecting to see something that was offensive AND funny. But Liza is right, that is just not funny at all. It's like someone who has seen the idea of laughing at pain, but doesn't really get why it's supposed to be funny, so they just decided to write something they thought would be offensive.
I frequent 4chan /b/ and I can certify that that site is serious failure.
I wasn't offended at the controversial aspects of what she wrote so much as I was offended at the fact it wasn't funny AT ALL.
She's really trying too hard to be edgy, and it just ain't workin'.
That blog is disturbing, but yeah, the worst part is it isn't even remotely amusing.
Your facebook link doesn't work, it just takes me to MY friends' posted items. Probably only people who are on your/her friends list can see whatever you were linking to.
That blog is disturbing, but yeah, the worst part is it isn't even remotely amusing.
Your facebook link doesn't work, it just takes me to MY friends' posted items. Probably only people who are on your/her friends list can see whatever you were linking to. (Although I had a freaky second where I thought the person you were linking to had turned out to be someone on MY friends list)
Being that I'm at work, I don't want to click on a link to "funny" captions about rape and child molestation, but generally I find this sort of thing tiresome and attention seeking more than humorous. Honestly speaking out against it would probably be giving her exactly what she wants-to feel "shocking" and "edgy" and ever-such-the-rebel.
I just realized that my post was full of typo's, haha. Seriously, I had to write that fast because I was on my way to work, but still needed to get it off my chest.
I have seen stuff like this before, and know that it is completely unoriginal, and just another way for people to gain attention.
As far as her WANTING negative feedback, I don't think that is the case. I can come to this conclusion because I know her. I honestly think she was trying to be funny, clever and witty, and that is why I had to say something.
It's a bit awkward to read positive feedback from other friends and acquaintainces, like, "Hahaha! Excellent!" When all I can feel is my stomach turning.
I had the choice to either keep my thoughts of disgust to myself, or take the risk of being seen as a spoilsport, no-sense-of-humor-complainer, which may have subjected me to ridicule amongst my social circle. As I literally felt myself shaking with anger and disgust while reading this girl's attempt at humor regarding rape and child molestation, I said, "You know what? I don't give a fuck!"
I posted my response about how her blog was vomit-inducing, expecting to be stricken with a backlash of angry retorts, from both her and her group of friends, but there is nothing.
And now that I think of it, how can someone defend the mockery of child rape? Seriously... Who the fuck wants to be that kind of asshole?
I'm glad I said something, because I know so many people have become jaded these days, and maybe these blog posts didn't even strike a chord with anyone else upon first glance, but at least I can be proud of myself for making a point to call someone out on their stupid, stupid attention craving bullshit.
Well I'm sure by posting this, you gave that site more traffic than it's ever had.
Well yeah, but the site has only been up for about a day, and I doubt anyone is going to go rushing back to read more. I'm not too concerned.
Just wrote a little comment on the blog site. And yeah, I was also expecting to laugh at least once and then say to myself, "I shouldn't have laughed at that..." but I mainly just got bored with all the stupid captions. Honestly, people who want to become bloggers should REALLY put a little bit more effort into coming up with a theme for their blogs. At least then they could feel some sense of accomplishment, even if their blog never goes "big".
That site was...
depressing.
This site is ridiculous and unnecessary! Karen have you thought about emailing your friend and telling her how offensive it is to you? Maybe she will take it down? You never know...
WOW. I am staggered.
...at the basic lameness of the commenting in here. Sailed right over your heads, didn't it, darlings? I can't quite believe it, but it looks like you really, really didn't see the sarcasm, huh?
Hokay, I'll try to explain. The writer takes a well-known subgenre of popular writing (the funny or cute picture + short caption, usually involving word play which makes it almost a poem, albeit a humorous one) and subverts it into a vehicle for a bitter critique of mores. This form of speech is called sarcasm.
Example, the one with the little girl. First, post a picture of an adorable child, looking sad or put out. Then, state that she suffered this terrible injustice: the molestation ('touching you' 'making you call him 'Uncle Stranglecock'), then the rape ('push ... deep, deep down, hard and long, into your warm, soft insides') at the hands of someone who should have protected, the violation of trust by someone who she should have been able to trust (use of 'Uncle' indicates possibly a relative or family friend, in any case an adult when the right thing is that adults should protect children, all children and not just their own). Then point out how society will side with the rapist ('nobody would believe you' 'they'd just laugh at you') to ignore or cover up the abuse. 'No one needs to know': that's the voice, the POV of the rapist, encouraging the child to keep this 'our little secret'; discouraging them from talking: 'HE TOLD you [that no one would believe her]--all the terrible things rapists of children are always telling their victims to stop them from speaking up. Then allude to the hypocrisy that has the victim, who never got any help to resolve her feelings about her ordeal, continuing in patterns of abusive sexual relationships which victimize her ('Start thinking of a porn name'--a reference to the idea of a lot of people in porn having had a history of childhood sexual abuse). You got yourself a biting, critique of mores, punchy and bitter and neatly wrapped up in just a few lines :-) Got it? Hallelujah.
Maybe if you'd read the context (ie the other posts), you'd have cottoned on to it that this wasn't a funny as in ha-ha blog. but then again, maybe not :-) One could provide similar analyses for the other posts, but Jaysus, I hope you're getting it by now; if not, I don't see what more anyone could do. If anybody out there can think of more, be my guest and try; you're a braver man than I am, lol
Ah well, at least I got _something_ out of this; this gal is a good writer (it takes some serious writing chops to pack such a wallop in just the few sentences she uses), and the photography is also very good; if the images are hers, that makes her admirably multi-talented, but even if they aren't, there's still a lot to be said for digging up the right one for the job. This blog goes straight into my bookmarks! Edgy? You bet!
Oh, and rustysppons? Commenting on something you freely admit you haven't read is the mark of a fool.
No, deary. Having just read through every single one of the posts on that blog does not confirm your point at all. They are still unfunny at best and horribly insensitive and offensive at worst.
Making light of molestation of children is not funny - ever. Sarcasm doesn't make it edgy or okay, especially not when beneath the sarcasm there exists a palpable layer of contempt and condescension for the person it's directed at i.e. the person on the photo.
Not okay, not funny, not edgy, not poetic.
And digging up images? Oh please, any fucktard can dig up images on the internet, giving her credit for that 'accomplishment' just shows how much of imbecile you are.
Oh, and "mona"? About the only thing that made sense in your whole tirade is the part where you say "a braver man than I", because I don't doubt for a minute you're a man and a troll.
"Scathing social commentary"? Because she addressed a bunch of commonly known attributes of child molestation and served them up as humor? I might have been impressed if she chose to make the molester her target and perhaps ran a commentary on what makes "Uncle Stranglecock" rationalize his behavior, instead, we're supposed to find hilarity in the presumed fate of his victim.
I know this, incidentally, because I was able to look at the blog when I got home. It was exactly the kind of tired, wannabe-edgy "humor" I predicted it would be. So either what I actually displayed is the mark of a psychic, or more likely, this blog and it's premise are trite and played-out.
Okay, I don't know why but you guys seem to be stuck on the idea that 'funny'=ROFLMAO. Ever heard of dark humor? Morbid humor? hell, SARCASM? you don't ROFL with sarcasm, you're not supposed to--it's a smile and wisely nod your head kind of thing. What are you, like 10, not to know this stuff?
That aside though: what's up with the no arguments thing then? Okay, you say it's bad to make fun of rape etc. No disagreements there. Except, I made an argument that the blog ISN'T making fun of rape, or victims. It's inviting us to sympathize, only it's doing it using biting, bitter language (which many people find is a more effective tool than the blunt instrument of seething and righteous anger). To that, you guys both answer (to paraphrase and summarize):
"yeah, yeah YEAH, but, BUT *gulp*... IT'S still bad to make fun of rape victims! It's Bad and besides it's Not Funny''
Quite. I believe we've covered that. We've now moved on to whether this is making fun of victims at all, which I argue it is not--quite the opposite. Can either of you tell me why your answers don't include an actual argument, aka an attempt to convince me or whoever's reading and agrees with me rather than you, but are simply helplessly reiterating what you said before (you and about ten others, might I add, ad nauseam)? It can't be that you don't care enough about the subject, and therefore just can't be arsed, because clearly you care enough that you posted not once, but twice. So, why? Why aren't you putting up a fight, but are simply rolling over and playing dead? OR...*narrowing eyes in speculation* would I be more on the money if I said 'playing victim'?
You wanna shut me up? give me an argument. Deconstruct what I said, deconstruct her text (caption and image both). Put a different spin on it than I did in my comment. Stick the quotes in there too, don't just talk vague into the wind. Don't just try to be a smartass and hope the other person will be cowed by your frequent use of the word 'fuck' and its derivatives; it doesn't make you rebellious (heck, it isn't even particularly shocking, or not to me anyway), it just makes you sound like you have no imagination and a poor vocabulary (including a poor stash of swearwords or curses, btw. What about sod, bugger, blast, damn, screw, and all their colorful derivatives?). Get into it, because you're no kind of a smart-ass if you can't back it up (you're only the back half of a smart-ass, lol)
And rustysppons--so, I'm a man, huh? Well, I guess that'll be news to my mom. She was under the impression she'd birthed a girl 'n all ;-) It took me a while to get over the surprise that you wouldn't recognize the expression--it is always used with the word 'man' no matter the sex of the speaker, which is in fact what makes it mildly amusing when used by a woman). When I did, I got the opportunity to note the irony. I love how you put my name (which is my real name by the way) in quotes, presumably to show me you do not believe this to be genuine as, and I quote '[I am] a man and a troll.' (so there, I could almost hear you add). It's like you think you're all whipped up into a frenzy that you've 'made' me, as it were, for 'a man and a troll'*, and tripping over yourself to show me up, then all the time the argument is baseless, because I am not, in fact, a man at all! Hee hee--now _that_ is ROFLMAO!
And if you want to make yourselves look at least somewhat serious, please try not to put quotation marks around something that is not, in fact, a quote from the other person's text; I didn't say 'scathing social commentary' (I wouldn't, because scathing involves passion and obviousness, a heated rhetoric in other words, and here we have bitterness and subtlety--cold). What I believe you may have been looking for was 'bitter critique of mores'. Getting this right next time will go a good way towards making you sound less like an eejit :-)
And Jemima--yes, any 'fucktard' (I prefer daft cow or dumb bitch really, so much more descriptive, if quite unfair to this particular person) can, indeed, get pictures off the internet. But few have the judgment to pick pictures such as these, which are good photography and not just your basic Random Pretty Pic, or much less to match them up with the text so effectively to maximize its impact.
Hell. If this sorry display of immature whining, lack of spirit and self-pitying petulance is what feminism is about, all I can say is ladies, we are seriously screwed.
*sorry, this is such a no doubt inadvertently hilarious formula I can't keep myself from repeating it a few times.
I don't know. This blog does not appear deep or profound, or worthy of being analyzed as though we are in a "Greatest Works of Fine Literature" class.
The whole premise of the blog is that is told in the "POV" (Point of View, for those not familiar with Mona's acronym) of the 2 writers of the blog who claim to "Diagnose your mental illness based on your sad pose." It doesn't get any deper than that.
I have read many items of fiction, non-fiction regarding this topic, and can appreciate a well-done piece on the matter. I understand sarcasm and enjoy edgy material, but this is just disgusting shit.
Disgusting shit. That sums up my POV and deep, analytical thesis on this blog.
Please excuse me now, while I go stick a frozen fish stick up an infants asshole, take a picture, write about it on Myspace and expect to be considered "cutting edge."
P.S. The caption is going to be told in the POV of the fishstick. Being shoved up the baby's asshole is going to symbolize the the injustice that a fish (innocent, like an infant) feels when it is violated, i.e. taken from it's natural environment, killed and shipped off to be packaged and frozen for human consumption. I'm expecting rave reviews!
Now that is sarcasm!
Knucks, Karen Maguire.
Thanks, although I will admit that I did get a little graphic with that last post, so please pardone moi if some people thought it to be tasteless.
I've vistited the blog of discussion recently and noticed that a few people from this site have posted comments on it. I, myself, am not going to continue on with this debate, but I would like to clear something up regarding what I recently read from a commentator who got the link from this site.
While they noted that they blog was "boring," they also mentioned that the "friend" (me) who brought this discussion to feministing was "passive-aggresive." I'm guessing this means that they think that I merely ran to feministing to whine and complain about the blog without directing any negative feedback toward the person that wrote the blog. That is not the case. My FIRST response upon reading the blog was to give negative feedback to the writer of said blog, and not anonymously, might I add. After still feeling unsettled and disheartened, I turned my complaints to this site.
Opinionated and upset? Yes. Passive-Aggressive? Not so much.
I am passionate about my beliefs and am willing to put myself out of my comfort-zone in order to stand up for what I think is right, and speak out against what I think is wrong. If the risk I have to take is that friends and acquaintances will dismiss me from their social circle, well, so be it.
Thank you and good day.
The fact that you think that you are not passive-aggressive is tasteless, Karen Maguire. Do you think that I, along with fellow feministing community members don't remember your hasty comments on one of my posts? You should reevaluate.