from MetaHara
Guilt is self serving and interferes with intuition. Yet, so many have been conditioned to feel guilt. Sometimes guilt is thrust upon us by an outside source. The next time someone tries to give you a guilt trip, you can know that is a form of abuse and reject it.
What if every time you felt guilt creep into your consciousness, you replaced it with another G?
Glad
Good
God
Goddess
Gratitude
Grace
Finding something to be grateful for in the situation is like a light at the end of the tunnel. It allows us to accept where we are in the moment, directing ourselves toward more ease. I'm not suggesting denial. If something that isn't working can be changed, work at changing it. Guilt doesn't help in that process.
Motherhood is full of opportunities to feel guilt and worry. I haven't figured out how to get rid of worry so much, but, my technique for guilt seems to work just fine.
For instance, I could feel guilty that I had my son experience the institution of school. He is someone who could have been better off home schooled. Or I could be grateful that he experienced the challenge and list the many benefits he would not have had in a home school environment (like learning to produce music on a computer). I can help him with the options available to him now and be supportive of the choices he makes to educate himself further.
Examining guilt to relieve ourselves of it informs us that every choice has pros and cons. Sometimes we do make a poor choice. We can examine that & make adjustments that guilt would get in the way of. Guilt fogs up the head. Gratitude creates clarity.
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In the first two lines of the post, replace guilty with God. LMAO, that becomes such a truth :D
Good point, though, sorta like self-therapy.