This Salon article is so interwoven with stereotypes is seems less like a personal memoir and more like bad chick lit fiction.
All single men are gay, the ones who aren't want younger women, married couples don't have sex, she wants meaningful sex and to change the men she's with, she likes cats and despises football and appreciates having the toilet seat down. And, also, my least favorite part: "I adore men -- they are so different from women -- and I'm intrigued by the way they think."
There are a whole range of men out there, just like there are a whole of women out there. While you can always point to a beer guzzling Neanderthal and a primadonna to make the case that men and women are worlds apart, I strongly resist the idea that men and women are like two different species. We overstate and focuse on the evidence that confirms this idea rather than acknowledging that we have more in common than we don't.
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Jeez 15 years! I was unintentionally celibate for 1 year until three men mysteriously came into my life all at the same time. Casual sex, totally ok with it. Vibrators? Whip em out! She just seems like she doesn't know herself enough to know what she wants, and as a result she continues to pine for some imaginary knight in a shining Armani suit. I am living proof that the spectrum of variance within the sexes is as large as that between the sexes.
I totally agree with you. There is a feeling of some unsatisfied longing in her article that has to do more with not being comfortable in her own skin vs. the men are this and women are that argument. I love the phrase "night in shining Armani suit" by the way.
I didn't read the entire article... it sounds too much like "all women want is love love love" and "all men want is sex sex sex". And it smacks of "men are from Mars, women are from Venus". It was making me soooooo effing pissed. So I stopped reading it.
Men and women aren't two different species, and more often than not, I think women are afraid of being considered a nymphomaniac for having a high sex drive while men are afraid of being seen as not "virile" enough if they have a low sex drive.
In other words, I agree with you.
The mars and Venus thing always pisses me off too. Why is it that I always find the men who are less interested in sex than I am? Where are these sex, sex,sex men that everyone seems to speak up? I would like to find me one of those. Just to use them, of course.