It's Time to Come Together

It’s been written about over and over again-the divide that remains between older and younger feminists. And I think this struggle is being nowhere more clearly pronounced than in the controversy over Ms.’s new cover featuring Barack Obama. Though I can’t speak for all college age feminists, I feel like there is a general consensus that we love Barack Obama. A lot. It’s hard to imagine that after watching his twenty-minute speech given to the Planned Parenthood convention just under a year ago, any feminist could walk away and not be inspired and comforted by the knowledge that soon our country will be led by a pro-choice, pro-woman president. Even typing those words is emotional for someone who, at 18, does not even really remember the Clinton years-only the George Bush ones. And just because we are in awe of and in love with our soon to be president does not mean we have completely lost our feminist lens. Yes, we realize that he has not appointed a proportionately equal number of women to his cabinet. Yes, we realize he won’t just come out and say he supports gay marriage. Yes, he has his faults.

But to hear the criticism given by the women whom young feminists are taught to look up to and admire of the man that is giving women of my generation hope for the first time in a very long time, is kind of hard to swallow. Ms. has been pushing the envelope since it’s inception, because, dare I say, simply publishing a feminist focused publication is pushing the envelope. And Ms., perhaps feeling the same sense of hope that my peers and I feel, felt that it was time to feature a man, a man who IS a self-proclaimed feminist. I was thrilled when I heard about the cover. So many Americans who love Barack Obama and probably feared the word feminism, can now see the two ideas as one. It’s hard to imagine this cover doing anything but strengthening the movement.

Unless you ask the old-schoolers. Yes, we understand you fought a very hard fight that won us many rights that we now take for granted. Yes, we understand that you know men can be feminists, but it’s hard for you to swallow a man being featured on the cover or OUR magazine. But to you, I say this. Relax. Breathe easy. Just for a little while, and feel the hope that we feel. Feel the excitement that we feel. We have a president who calls himself a feminist. Feel the excitement. Feel the hope. 

Posted by Emily - January 17, 2009, at 01:16PM | in Politics
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[0+] Author Profile Page CaroJ said:

You are sadly misinformed... not to mention patronizing.

Yes, I am what you term an "old-schooler." But our outrage at BO being on the cover of Ms. magazine has nothing to do with him being a man. It's just the little detail that you seem to have completely missed: BARACK OBAMA IS NOT A FEMINIST!!

Please read this blog. Dr. Socks explains Obama's misogynist record far better than I could: http://www.reclusiveleftist.com/2009/01/15/the-turning-point/

[0+] Author Profile Page Emily said:

I never meant to sound patronizing, though I can see how you would see that, CarolJ.

The link you provided is interesting, and makes valid points. I give you that. I am frustrated by the disconnect there is between the women that have given so much to the fight and the young women who are responsible for carrying it on. Perhaps my tone is this article clearly represents it. We have a lot to learn-but I think more importantly, much to discuss.


[0+] Author Profile Page Lucy XZ said:

I agree with you on some points Emily. I would def agree with the cover demonstrating the unity of the two concepts. Another element about some of the resentment is because its not Hillary Clinton; but, and this is a big but, Obama will bring a new, fresh, and yes feminist perspective to all issues. Like you, as an 18-yearer, I cannot remember any government that has ever passed a major piece of feminist legislation or fully supported a feminist ideal. Obama is the first. Perhaps he may not be the most radical feminist ever, but he still meets a lot of the criteria and is going to do a great deal to help protect women's "interests." I think we can all agree on that.

I dont think you sounded patronizing at all. I know that you admire and love the founders and fighters of the feminist movement. But the name of the game has changed, there are different fights and different ways of fighting. Its not as clear cut of what we are fighting for, there is no BIG laws or anything. Obama represents a new way of fighting and thinking. He is going to make a positive difference for women. Period.

[0+] Author Profile Page sarah replied to Lucy XZ :

I felt patronized by the whole "relax" part. That is the most tired & overused word anyone can say to a feminist, and the most frustrating.

Well, offering you smelling salts and asking you to stop being so hysterical would be a bit worse, perhaps ("you calm yourself, sister-woman..."). =)

I think one of the sources of problems here is that there's a very thin line I think we have to walk -- on the one hand, we should be glad that we do finally have a president who appears to be a lot more devoted to feminist issues, but on the other hand, is he devoted enough? I think it's possible to be celebratory about the first while also maintaining the right to criticism w/r/t the second, although it puts us in a weird position -- championing a president for the improvement that he signifies while also criticizing him for the very real problems that he allows to persist.

Anyway, I think the Ms. cover is great, but not because I think Obama Is Like Totally A Feminist -- I think he's at least devoted enough in theory for it not to be totally insulting (the way it would be if they had chosen, say, Sarah Palin), and as long as that condition is met, I think any depiction of a well-liked mainstream public figure embracing the word "feminist" is a good thing. It's not about whether or not he really is a feminist, by whatever definition, it's more about making the word "feminist" visible in a positive light and thereby encouraging the social acceptability of calling oneself a feminist. In that sense, I think the cover design succeeds.

(Full disclosure: 25, considers herself pretty "old school" and radical in some ways and more "3rd wave" in others, voted for Obama in the Democratic primaries while registered Independent).

[0+] Author Profile Page Keliz said:

I agree wholeheartedly with idiolect about liking the image. That was my first reaction when I saw the cover. So many people in my generation (I am 20) have averse ideas about the word feminist - even the ones that hold highly feminist beliefs. Many of these same people campaigned for Obama. I hope that this image might help some of these people to overcome the idea that to actively fight for those ideas, that to be a "feminist", is somehow bad. Obama has such an intense following that he could certainly be useful in making the word "cool" again.

The superman pose is a little disturbing to me though, because I think that is where I see the complaints about all his criticisms being relavent. Instead of just depicting him as a feminist, it is like the pose makes him out to be the Ultimate Feminist. And as others have noted, there are many aspects that ought to be criticized. It is too bad Ms. couldn't have chosen some other pose, but I suppose this one is more attention-getting.

OK, I'm not exactly old-school, but I am almost twice your age, in spite of the fact that the college freshmen I teach think I'm "probly about five yrs older then us freshman" (sorry, but that one made me giggle).

I wasn't offended by the cover of Ms., but I understand the hesitance and misgivings that many older feminists feel. To understand it, you probably do need a more thorough understanding of the history of feminism. Feminists have repeatedly had promises made to them during campaigns which never came to fruition, and as time passed it became clear that the politician in question never intended to keep any of these promises. Many a feminist cause has been thrown under the bus once feminist support is no longer needed and championing that cause is no longer expedient. With repeated disappointment comes more caution, level-headedness, and yes, cynicism.

The older I get, the more interested I am in somebody showing me what they believe, rather than just telling me, and that requires reserving judgment. This also comes as the result of the many, many protests, run-ins with police, empty words by politicians who are just trying to get some good PR, etc. I was very passionate and optimistic at 18 as well (OK maybe more like 16), but repeatedly running up against a system of good ol' boys, patriarchal policies, and and corporate buyoffs tends to cool your passion, temper your optimism, and make you view the world with a jaded eye.

So I think it's important that younger feminists not be dismissive, not just because of the advances that older feminists achieved for your benefit, but also based on respect for the experiences and perspective of older feminists. When you're young, it seem blindingly clear that your perspective is the right one. However, one of the benefits of maturity is an understanding that somebody with whom you disagree may have a perfectly valid position based on their experiences, and that listening to these experiences and factoring them into your worldview is a very constructive thing to do.

Damn, this turned into a lecture. Sorry!

[0+] Author Profile Page opheliasawake said:

As a college sophomore and very sex positive third wave feminist, I found the Ms. cover incredibly comforting. As a self identified feminist from elementary school on and living in a very conservative area, I constantly felt marginalized when I expressed my identification, and I still feel that way in many cases. It was so upsetting to me when I first encountered second wave feminists that marginalized me as well, based on my "naive understanding of sexual politics."

I voted and campaigned for Hillary in the primaries but fell into the Democratic fold when she conceded. I resisted Obama as a candidate and convinced myself I was just voting Democrat, but the more research I did, the more I liked him. I loved that he made feminism acceptable to people whose knee-jerk reaction was to dismiss feminists as unattractive femi-nazis before they even open their mouths. Obama's Planned Parenthood speech changed everything for me. It made me feel accepted, and it gave me hope that the men in my life might even identify as feminist some day.

Ms. is reflecting the circumstances of our time. In this awful night of economic depression, cultural and real war, even just a Democratic president is a symbol of hope, but this man who identifies as feminist is better. He might not get a perfect feminist scorecard, but apparently I don't get one either. I feel that Ms. endorsing Barack Obama invites me into their fold as well as him, and I'm so happy to be there. I've wanted it for a long time.


While I appreciate your comments, I feel as if you're talking down to me. I was once 18 years old and thought Bill Clinton was one of the greatest presidents ever. When the Lewinsky story came out I was heartbroken and angry...a person who I thought was at least for women turned out to be one who abused them too (by participating in a sexual relationship with a subordinate)...something I now see all to often in the workplace.

I'm not trying to say live without hope. I'm saying please do not set your expectations so high until you have a chance to see how he does in office: after all, he did as Rick Warren to speak/pray.

Be aware, and please, try to be a little less condescending to those who have seen more, remember the Clinton years and more very clearly, and share your concern for feminist values.

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