i thought it was kind of funny, if only that I could [really really shamefully] admit to sympathizing with the first portion of what she said. I still struggle with basing my self-worth on my appearance, and though I've gotten better I can't honestly say that there haven't been times in my life where I've felt crappy for noticing that men WEREN'T looking at me when I walked down the street (and then felt about ten million times crappier for feeling that way.) Getting cat-called and stared at is not something I want, but when you're bombarded with something daily, you get used to it and when it doesn't happen all of a sudden, you wonder why, and think that maybe you're looking a bit shitty lately or something. And then you get mad at yourself for thinking things like, "well, now, THAT guy over there looks like the sort creepy enough to make his ogles pretty blatant, so why exactly is he not looking over here?" and these are the thoughts that make you want to smack yourself across the face for letting potential douchebags get to you for NOT harassing you. and then my mind exploded. i'd like to feel like i'm not a hypocrite and i'd like to not care but it's fucking hard to not care about how you look when you've been rewarded for looking how you look your whole life.
sorry if that was off topic, but in regards to the rape joke, first off, it kind of bugs me that this was put in quotes, when she never said those exact words. In fact, you could argue that the gist of what she said didn't even amount to what was put in quotes and that that was what you, personally, gathered from what she said. Which, technically makes some sense, but again, it's not word for word and the context of what she was saying really needs to be taken into account. I feel, personally, that she took that feeling I articulated very poorly in my first paragraph and made it into a ridiculous hyperbole that is pretty laughable. I don't really think she's saying that women want to be raped, just that when you are part of a society where harassment is incredibly normative and is often times (wrongly) viewed as a harmless compliment, there is a part of you that buys into that, and the rest of you HATES that part of yourself. If anything, I viewed it as a comment on how the patriarchy can royally fuck women up, but I'm probably projecting and giving her the benefit of the doubt because she was kind of funny. Or maybe she doesn't care. I don't know. The problem is that what she said isn't backed up with enough reasons as to WHY women might think such fucked up thoughts, and to college guys watching her, it may just boil down to, "women secretly want it!" which, is bullshit. But sighghhg i dunno I'm bad at this. i tried.

I thought it was funny, since I relate to it, I'm ashamed to admit. Definitely the first part anyways. I agree with Snampire that being rudely ogled is 'supposed' to be viewed as a 'compliment', so if the weird guy on the subway doesn't look at you while he's jerking off, then you're ugly. It's more sad than funny when I explain it, isn't it...

*runs off to cry*