I just wanted to vent about these stupid Hydroxytone commercials where these men are all oooing and ahhhing about how they just can't believe how young their wives look since they started using Hydroxytone face cream. Why, it's like they have their hot old wives back!!!! Of course, the men still have gray hair and crows feet and pot bellies but that's okay.......as long as their wives keep themselves up to par he won't have to go out and cheat, right??
This shit just always unnerves me. It's the same with all the anti-aging stuff directed almost exclusively at women. Sadly, most women won't even stop to reflect on why THEY are the ones always targeted by these ads.....yes, they are the primary consumers, but why? Could it be because the media is always reinforcing the idea that it is OUR looks that matter most of all, that our looks matter more than anything else about us and certainly our looks matter more than the looks of men do.
I have kept my looks and my figure.....for me just as much as for my partner. He has done the same. It's just the outside pressure and constantly propping up of these hurtful double standards and the sense of obligation it instills among women and the entitlement it promotes in men that pisses me off.
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Bah, I can't stand that commercial in particular. I'm sure it's not an accident that the one place I typically hear it is on right-wing radio talk shows when I'm spending time with my folks. (I'm looking at you, Rush and Prager.)
Well, many heterosexual men prefer women that look young. Be they petite, average, or plus sized very fair skinned or very dark skinned long hair or short the preference for youth intersects all other preferences.
Many heterosexual men are NOT monogamous but will try their best to be monogamous so long as the person they are being monogamous with maintains a certain level of physical beauty highly associated with youth. It would be hard to find someone who isn't that attached to youth but if you marry a man in your 20s who you KNOW expects you to still look that way 20 years later, you can't blame him for being the man you married 20 years ago when the dreadful times come for his douchebaggery to show.
what??? Reverse this for a second: "if you marry a woman in your 20s who you KNOW expects you to still look that way 20 years later, you can't blame her for being the woman you married 20 years ago"... You wanna post that on Askmen.com?? I dare you.
So it makes sense to you, its logical to expect that a person who is shallow as all hell when you get married will all of a sudden stop being the same shallow person after some years go by an dyou don't look as good?
Hey there troll!
Troll? Wow, RACIST!
If you disagree with me, and it makes me a troll, then because I'm a person of color and you insult me, it makes you a racist. Stupid logic right? Good, then don't use that BS on me. EIther have the decency to dissent or keep it moving. Calling me a troll because you disagree that a shallow man will continue to be shallow is just you insulting me because I'm a WOC with an opinion.
You are so right. I tease my husband, saying he is so lucky I don't use those products. I will age gracefully, over time, so he can get used to it. He won't be shocked like the partner of someone who looks 20 for thirty years, forgets a treatment one night, and wakes up the next morning "wrinkly and old"! No offense intended, just a little humor to keep my spirits up as the rest of me falls. ;P
As of next week, I'll be in spitting distance of 40, and I've got to say that I've got no interest in being in a relationship with a woman in her 20s. What would we talk about?
Not to mention that there's an avuncular vibe in my conversations with young women that would really skeeze me out if the relationship turned romantic.
Everyone is going to age. It bugs me, and I fight it, but my body is not going to look like it did ten years ago, let alone 20, and neither is my wife's. Why devote a ton of emotional and financial resources to a fight that's completely unwinnable and pointless? I'd rather put that energy into something that's going to make me happy, like making sure I feel healthy and capable while still being able to eat ice cream.
Precisely why I hate advertising. All of it operates on the principal that the way to sell a product is to convince people they desperately need it. Every anti-aging commercial, whether it's directed at men or women, very cruelly plays on the fear that if we age (god forbid!) we will be discarded by our loved ones.
For your sanity, try to turn a deaf ear to it. Unless they're completely out of touch with reality, most people entering into long-term relationships expect that they'll 'grow old together.' And a lot of people find the idea romantic.
I think a lot of the comments here were good. If you don' t like it, don't watch it. Individuals give power to ideals, the pressure is only as real as you make it. Don't blame someone else for your own insecurities.