The biggest common debate that I hear against feminism from men, and women alike is by far that these feminist want to be treated equal, but they don’t want to pay for dates, and they want guys to open doors for them etc.
Honestly, I’m tired of hearing it.
Being a feminist does not mean that I want womyn to be dominant over men. I’d actually fully reject this idea. It means that I feel that women and men are equal.
Contrary to Beyonce’s belief system, I don’t want a world ruled by girls.
I don’t want a world ruled by any sex.
Feminism works to remove systems of domination, and oppression in our society, which includes, but is not limited to racism, classism, and homophobia.
Now, I suppose you want me to go more in depth about the meaning of Feminism.
Well, I can’t, because that’s all it is. That’s it.
About womyn wanting equal rights, but not doing all that other stuff:
I, as a feminist, want equal rights socially, and legally for both men and womyn.
I do not view opening doors or paying for dates as something to be desired in a male. I see it as a sign of politeness, and I don’t mind doing these things for anyone regardless of their gender or sex.
I open doors for my guy friends, I buy them things, I pay for food, too. This is friendship, or a relationship. This is being polite, and should not be limited to just guys.
The problem is that when I do these things, men often complain that they feel emasculated.
So this isn’t just our fault, it’s yours, too!
The bigger problem is that somehow this gets thrown in with feminism. There is no feminist code that says (as Steve Harvey put it) “Act like a lady, think like a man.”
We don’t go around craving chivalry and we don’t condemn it, either.
Honestly, the girls who most align with the ideals of wanting equal rights, but wanting guys to do traditional masculine things aren’t feminists, or a feminists who haven’t researched feminism.
Feminists KNOW the strict social bind put onto males, and we work to end that form of oppression.
I am a feminist. This means that I want to see a professional girls’ football team just as much as I want to see a professional boys’ cheerleading team (and I kind of want to see boys’ cheerleading more).
I’m not just fighting for womyn’s rights. I’m fighting for men and women to be treated as equals in all aspects of life. So that guys can be nurses without question, and girls can have lots of sex with many people without being called into question.
I feel that chivalry is for both genders, and is should really just be called being polite.