“Mandatory Sex” – part of a healthy marriage!?

*Trigger warning*

“Mandatory Sex”.  Just roll the phrase around on your tongue, as you poor bewildered brain tries to process it.

If you’re anything like me, you scanned over the phrase only to immediately focus back on it, as your stomach turned, and the world seemed just a little bit yuckier. And, honestly, I really do try to limit my exposure to things that make me want to vomit, or scream, or punch people I have never met in the face. Again, not too Christmas-sy. So yes, I apologize – but I just couldn’t refrain from passing this along.

Ok, There – Now that the apologies are out of the way, we can proceed.

Remember CBS? You know, the supposedly legitimate news and entertainment broadcasting network? Something that supposedly represents this century?

Well, today, I happened upon the grossest article on the website for CBS “News”…entitled…wait for it… “Should sex be mandatory in marriage?”

Yes – I am serious!  No - really, I am! I’ve attached the link below, but maybe you should wait to follow up that one on an empty stomach.

Maaanndaaatory Sex”. Now there’s an idea that embodies love, I’m sure. There’s not much hotter or more empowering than the notion of “mandatory sex”, I’m sure.

If you haven’t gotten sick all over your keyboard yet (again, I apologize) – you can watch the accompanying video. Apparently the people at CBS were resourceful to get in a panelist to support the idea. And the icing on the cake – he is actually an authority on the matter in that he has written a book called “He Said..She said” or some shit like that….doubtlessly chock full of excellent advice for its presumably female target market.

Yes, ladies, – WE are the target market for this kind of crap….because it is US that second guess ourselves so much more often, and spend more time wondering how we can better please our partners. (At our own expense if need be.)

Say what you want about men….but they would never buy that crap. And neither should we. But many of us do, and consequently there’s a market for books like his….and lots of people who are receptive to brilliant ideas like “mandatory sex” in the context of marriage. (The very notion of thinking its perfectly legitimate to demand sex from an unwilling partner that you love….that probably loves you….ugh, my poor stomach…there I go again).

I also noticed that this article was 1.5 yrs old now….where the HELL was the outcry then? I noticed they were smart enough to introduce the concept of sexual slavery by referencing the case of the woman who supposedly sued her husband….for all of 14 thousand dollars….for failing to have sex with her.

Hey! By golly, I’ve got an idea too!! f we’re gonna go that route…how about making it mandatory that men perform due diligence that sex is mutually enjoyable?! Meaning that a lot of guys are gonna have to get beyond the selfish idea that them receiving oral sex or just diving into action with their most prized member alone (with zero foreplay) is allllll a woman could ever want.

If we could sue for that one, ladies, more of us would be much richer.

One last thing – the poll. A WHOPPING 60% PERCENT of respondents AGREED that “YES! Sex SHOULD be mandatory in marriage!”.

See….I told you to wait until you had an empty stomach.

Hey, let’s call this one what it really is: “MANDATORY SEX” isn’t really any different than “COERCED SEX”…..which isn’t that different from, you know, “THAT RAPE THING”.

What do you want to do about this one? An online petition?  It moved me enough to make my first ever blog or online posting, lol! So I’d love to hear what you guys think.

Now that I’ve upchucked my cookies, I suppose its time to go back to indulging in the egg nog and try to think happier thoughts.

Happy Holidays.

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2 Comments

  1. Posted December 28, 2012 at 11:02 am | Permalink

    As much as I understand your outrage I don’t understand why you would marry someone if you weren’t intending to have sex with them from time to time. Or why you would stay married to someone that you refused to have sex with. If you ever reach that point, and it isn’t due to some sort of illness or disability, then the marriage is over and you should part ways. Stay friends if you want but you aren’t married at that point.

    Clearly “mandatory sex on demand” is wrong but i don’t think anyone would try to argue otherwise. Clearly you can say no and not have sex on any given day. Or even most days or many days in a row. But if you NEVER say yes? That’s a problem.

    So the idea is not crazy. It is valid as long as it’s in the right context.

    Also I don’t know about others marriages but mine required it to be consummated before it was fully complete. I think that’s a religious requirement and not a legal one, but still, the requirement is there nonetheless.

    • Posted December 31, 2012 at 5:59 pm | Permalink

      Her point is that it shouldn’t be “required”, at all — by religious standards, by legal standards, by cultural standards, by ANY standards. Because, once we start having those “requirements”, the next thing you know, we’ll have laws that say “There’s no such thing as rape in a married couple”.

      Oh, wait… we’ve already got those. THAT’S why this is a bad idea.

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