A wedding conjures up images of a meek woman in white a wedding dress (varies depending upon culture) being escorted down the aisle by her father who is eagerly waiting to give her away to another man to become his responsibility. In this day, the ceremonial underpinnings of a wedding can somewhat devalue today’s superwoman. Many of us are too ferociously independent to be tolerable of such a trade. But being married doesn’t have to devalue one’s independence, after all it is a union– two coming together as one to form a team in which to raise children, save for retirement, and grow old. For women that need their weddings to reflect their independence and lifestyle, here are some wedding ideas that will be more representative of this shifting cultural attitude.
Walk Yourself Down the Aisle
Traditionally, we are given away by our fathers. In today’s age, many women have unfortunately been raised by single mothers. There have been numerous ceremonies where the bride is given away by her mother, but you can also give yourself away. After all this is your decision.
Wear a Coloured Dress
Western weddings assume the bride will be adorned in a white dress symbolizing purity, but this assumption of purity is often inaccurate. Why kid yourself (or anyone else)? You’ve probably done the “do” with your groom after the second or third date, so feel free to embrace that you are not a virgin and wear a coloured wedding dress. A loud colour such as hot pink or red can express your inner diva. For those that are a little too shy for so much colour, try a light grey wedding dress.
Wedding dress don’t have to look traditional either. You can get married in any attire you feel comfortable in. If you feel most comfortable in a tank top and shorts, why not!?
Let Bridesmaids Be Themselves
Allow your bridesmaids to select their own dresses. There is no law saying that every woman in your wedding needs to have on the same dress. After all, they’re independent thinkers just like you.
Select a Non-Traditional Venue
A church wedding is very important to some, and to others it’s just not appealing. Selecting a non-traditional venue can really add spice, personality, independence, all mixed with a sprinkle of rebellion to your ceremony. Rooms can be rented most places including the local museum of art or sciences, the aquarium, tattoo parlors (for small weddings), camp sites (for outdoor ceremonies), the skating ring, etc. Have fun with the selection of your location, and your guests will be sure to have fun as well.
Say Non-Traditional Vows
“For Better or Worse” or “Death Due Us Part” are certainly worthy of inclusion, but you can also add vows that speak to your personal beliefs, interest or humour. Read your favourite poem, song, or lines from your favourite movie or children’s book to each other. Children’s books are rip with values and social mores.