I am a fan of popular music, and that includes all the rap, rock, and pop that degrades the shit out of women. My mother is a second wave feminist, and her mother was a first wave feminist. While I was growing up, words of, “How can you listen to this shit? Don’t you see a problem with this?” were common in my mother’s minivan.
Like most young people, I always thought she was just full of it. I mean, while I did see the imbalance between the way men were treated and the way women were treated in the media, and especially in music, I just didn’t understand the depth of how the media affects the views of society and shapes the worlds of individuals. I was only twelve, fourteen, sixteen, eighteen.
But that’s the thing about feminism, or about any social ideology, you can grow up surrounded by it, and you can even claim it as your own, but it’s almost useless that way. It’s useless in the same way that religion is useless if you’ve been surrounded by it for so long that you’ve never been able to see the need for it, and in the end, you might just abuse it while hiding behind its doctrine. Read More