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The Thank You Note, or Invisible Sites of Affective Labor

TweetIt’s taken me a while to fully appreciate the exact meaning of affective labor—that is, work we perform in everyday life to produce positive emotional experiences for other people.  Sure, I’m aware that feminists have used it for some time to explain invisible labor within the home, specifically that performed by married women.  Then again, [...]
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If You Liked It You Shoulda Put a Ring on It?

TweetSince my partner and I decided to get married, I have gotten the constant question of, “where’s your engagement ring? Why don’t you have an engagement ring?” Followed by, “You NEED to have an engagement ring.”* Full disclosure: I’ve turned down two proposals.  One was a high school boyfriend desperate to keep me from breaking [...]
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How to talk to your boyfriend about feminism

TweetI’ve read almost every ‘how-to’ guide for women about men out there: ”How to get your man to ask you to marry him,” “How to straddle your man like a pro,” “How to get your man to say the ‘L’ word,” or “How to be a woman in the streets and a freak in the [...]
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“I love you, but f*ck you”: Male pleasure is only 50% of the deal

TweetTo my loving boyfriend of fourteen months, Let’s go over a story. It’s a true story, and I think you’ll find it quite intriguing. It starts just the other night, and, as most good stories do, it starts with us laughing, kissing, and sumptuously feeling in your bed… We kissed, giggled, you played with my [...]
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For Valentine’s Day, let’s learn about love from Hugh Jackman

TweetIt’s Valentine’s Day, and we’re all thinking about love. So it’s more than a little serendipitous that this story has been popping up in various forms on every damn news outlet ever within the last 24 hours. Here’s the gist: Hugh Jackman has once again had to deny rumors that he’s gay. And not surprisingly, these [...]
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